Feb 14, Kathmandu - In Nepal, discussions about love and relationships become particularly common during the weekends. Today, individuals from all walks of life—ordinary citizens to Nepal Police personnel—are increasingly engaging in conversations and activities centered around love. It highlights the need to talk more openly about relationships, not only to spread awareness but also to prevent misunderstandings and issues.

Historically, topics of love and sexuality were considered taboo in Nepali society, shrouded in shame and kept under wraps. However, societal changes and urban lifestyles have gradually shifted these perceptions.

The trend of falling in love and choosing partners started to surface openly in Nepal. From exchanging love letters via postal mail to sending postcards featuring film stars, the ways of expressing affection evolved. Couples could often be seen sitting together at cinema halls' back rows or strolling hand-in-hand in parks.

Although many preferred to keep their romantic pursuits discreet—sometimes hiding their partners from family or relatives—the term “dating” became popular for clandestine meetings. Dating, in this context, refers to meeting with a partner, going out, or spending time together in a romantic setting.

Today, Nepali society exhibits a more open and modern approach to dating, although it is not yet universal.

Online Dating:
In developed countries, online dating is commonplace, with mobile apps designed specifically for finding partners. Terms like “left-right swipe” are common. In Nepal, online dating is still emerging but is gaining ground. Platforms such as Saino and Darlivo are popular locally, while international apps like Tinder, Bumble, and Tantan are also used. Urban residents often share their experiences of online dating, citing convenience in meeting like-minded individuals.

Many Nepali youths also use social media platforms like Facebook and Instagram for dating purposes, turning socialization into romantic connections—sending friend requests, chatting, and meeting in person.

Casual Dating:
Casual dating has become increasingly popular among city youth. Many describe it as preferable to serious relationships, citing reduced stress, freedom from commitment, and fewer worries about betrayal. Casual dating involves going out, talking, and sometimes physical intimacy without labels like “boyfriend” or “girlfriend.” Both parties enjoy spending time together but without emotional depths typical of committed relationships.

Some interpret casual dating as simply “hanging out,” with regular chats and outings, often without clarifying the nature of the relationship.

Coffee Dates:
Many young people favor meeting over coffee for initial encounters. Coffee dates are considered safe, affordable, and mutually comfortable. They allow for good conversation, relaxed atmosphere, and the opportunity to spend quality time, be it short or long. Even after establishing a relationship, many continue with coffee dates, enjoying the ambience of cafes, light music, and conversations.

These meetings can occur during work breaks, after college, or in free afternoons. Often, expenses are shared equally, practicing “split the bill.” Besides coffee, activities like hiking, watching movies, shopping, attending concerts, or dining out are also common.

Long-Distance Relationships:
Relationships are no longer confined to those living nearby. Today, long-distance relationships are quite common, especially when work or study commitments require partners to stay apart. Such relationships rely heavily on video calls and social media for “digital dating.” Some individuals maintain their relationships with occasional visits within Nepal, while others plan future moves abroad or wait for opportunities.

In summary, Nepal’s dating culture is evolving at the intersection of tradition and modernity. While it offers greater freedom and choices, it also presents new challenges and dynamics in personal relationships.